Commit in Singleness

Set aside your feeling, commit for a greater cause -@JeffryRachmat

Sometime few weeks ago at one of JPCC Sunday Service, Ps.Jeffry Rachmat preached about commitment. The main idea is that being a Christian (aka Christ follower) means you are a committed person. You have to commit (something) until the very end. Why? Because God does. He commit to do The Salvation until the very last drop of His life, eventhough He had another choice.

I don’t know if this happen to you also, but when I heard the word ‘commitment’, the first thing comes up in my mind is Marriage/Relationship. I think most people are, because marriage is the most common way to describe commitment.

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As Ps.Jeffry said, commitment are only for those who are willing to sacrifice. Marriage takes sacrifice. Just imagine that two person sleep in the same bed everyday, lives in the same house, and have to deal with each other for the rest of their life. In fact, these two person is ONE now. So much to sacrifice. Yet, a committed spouse give someone serenity and build trust between them. You know, this is a kind of basic foundation, a must-have thing i could say, in a relationship, especially marriage. Trust built from serenity which grow by commitment. Blah blah blahh.. Guess I don’t need to think about commitment yet, right? Then someway, this fact strikes me.

 Commitment is not talking about relationship or marriage. Commitment defined by one’s maturity. It’s about persistence. It’s about life value. It’s about mindset. So, bear with this fact I want to tell you. The fact that we -you and me, those who are single, can should also commit in their our singleness.

Girls, back in my childhood, one of my childhood dream was to have a romantic-happily-ever-after life with my prince charming, and I never knew anything about broken heart. I bet that you too. 😛 As time goes by, I know that life is not as simple as that, and as said in Adele’s song, sometimes it lasts in love but sometimes it hurts instead. I believe that even simplest hurt feeling could lead our heart to damage. I am sure that kind of heart is not the one I want to receive from my husband-to-be. Vice versa, I do not want to give a damage heart to him.

Therefore, our commitment in singleness is to guard our heart with diligence. Just because someone is being nice to us, doesn’t mean he/she is in love with us, and we shall not let ourselves flying to the planet of assumptions and expectations. If someone regularly chat with us, also does not mean he/she have feelings for us, maybe they just need friends or just being nice. Open your heart but when something happens, maybe it is just the way it is. Don’t let our stupid assumption and high expectation lead us another way.  We also need to keep our words, actions and attitudes. Simple, avoid flirting. When we know someone interested in us yet we are not, don’t use their feelings for our own good.

Above all, commitment in singleness is to give our heart and thoughts, our ways – our life to the LORD, and He will bless us(Psalm 37:5-9). We have many stories and examples about Man of God and Godly Woman in Bible, but I will give you a hint. One of my favorite is Proverb 31, which told us about character of Godly Woman. Also, King David, a man after God’s own heart. Isn’t that a WOW?

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Yes, it is not easy things to do, especially nowadays. Commit to that kind of stuffs, and we find ourselves put in the nerd zone. But again, commitment takes sacrifice, for a greater cause. And guess what? For us, God already prepare the best gift and it’s already waiting for us. That dream to have wonderful-husband/wife and happily-ever-after marriage, that desire to have Godly Family, yes that dream!

Meaningful marriage life starts with meaningful single life. Don’t dream that ONE wedding day could change meaningless people to the other way. So, take commitment in your singleness until the end of it.

“The fact that I am a woman does not make me a different kind of christian,But the fact that I am a christian does make me a different kind of woman.” ― Elisabeth Elliot

 

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7 thoughts on “Commit in Singleness

      • really love the part:
        “Meaningful marriage life starts with meaningful single life”.
        so powerful and thank you so much for that 🙂

        keep writing the great things 😀

  1. This is a Good One 🙂

    When God knows you’re ready for the responsibility of a commitment,
    He’ll reveal the right person under the right circumstances.
    Wait patiently.
    Don’t waste your time searching and wishing. Grow and be ready, you’ll see God will give you a love story far better than you could ever dream of

    I am trust one day God will send to you your prince charming, hehe 🙂

  2. “When God knows you’re ready for the responsibility of a commitment,
    He’ll reveal the right person under the right circumstances.
    Wait patiently.Don’t waste your time searching and wishing. Grow and be ready, you’ll see God will give you a love story far better than you could ever dream of..”

    like John above, i love this one,Ve…
    penghiburan buat yang lagi jomblo..khususnya yang mulai masuk jajaran JombloJangkaPanjang hehehe….

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