Quote of the day:
“Let there be spaces in your togetherness, And let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup. Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf. Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone, Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music. Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping. For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts. And stand together, yet not too near together: For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.”
Kahlil Gibran – The Prophet
And I say:
A person must be able to be alone & find happiness within themselves, before they can ever expect to be happy with someone else.
Seperti khotbah Ps.Jeffry Rachmat about Single Forever. Klik saja.
Penting sekali. Mengapa? Karena orang yang utuh punya gambar diri yang benar. Orang yang utuh merasa aman / secure. Orang yang utuh tahu ke mana, untuk apa dan bagaimana hidupnya. Orang yang utuh akan punya hubungan yang sehat. It’s so important, that God Himself called marriage as Two become One, not Half become One..
Not only you have to be completely single before you get in a relationship, but you have to be single after you are in a relationship.
Lihat lagi kata-kata Om Kahlil. Aku tidak sepenuhnya setuju dengan bagian “drink not from one cup” / “eat not from the same loaf“. Kesannya egois.
Tapi aku menangkap pesan lain dari kalimat itu. That even you both in a relationship, you both have your own life, so share your life, give love one another, support and help each other, but don’t make your spouse’s life and love as your main source of happiness in life. Get it??
Being in a relationship (pacaran, red.) doesn’t mean you have to be cling attached 24/7 to them. Bahkan walaupun pernikahan sama dengan berbagi seluruh hidup, bukan berarti 24/7 bersama ibarat perangko dan amplop, kan?
Ah, mengingatkan aku pada tulisan Dewi Lestari, tentang Spasi, baca di SINI..
Let the winds of the heavens dance between you.
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